Being engaged around the holidays can feel a bit like a Hallmark movie. You have your matching PJs. You’re drinking hot cocoa out of your “just engaged” mugs. And maybe you’re snuggled under a cozy blanket gazing at your first tree together.

But, depending on your family, it can also be a really stressful time and bring about some difficult situations.

In order to help you navigate the holidays in a way that feels respectful, manageable, and perhaps even joyful, here are my best tips.